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Dennis Fischman's avatar

A dear friend who is a rabbi and conducted our wedding told my wife and me about some parents that approached her about a bar mitzvah for their son. "We want him to have the experience, but we don't want him indoctrinated with all this stuff about God. We had enough of that in Hebrew school ourselves."

She asked calmly, "So, you want me to teach him that Judaism is an empty ritual the same as you learned it was?" And not realizing the irony, they agreed.

Thank you, Rabbi, for insisting that while there are plenty of kid-friendly activities in Jewish life, it's a tradition for grown-ups! Wrestling with the complexities is a very Jewish thing to do.

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Sarah Weissman's avatar

I love this so much. A few year ago, a friend said he felt a bit odd for celebrating for the reasons you struggled with. I had to let this be a time to remember not persecuting others as we were persecuted. A celebration as well as a reminder. I've almost always felt what you call an "adult faith" to have a place in Judaism.

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